I Told My Partner I crossdress And She loves It Read This story !!!!
I am a boy who likes to dress like a girl
My heart was pounding when I told her. I didn’t know if she would still look at me the same way.
To me, it felt like the biggest risk I had ever taken.
Why does a boy wear girls clothes?
Her first reaction wasn’t explosive, but I could tell she was confused with this new piece of me.
That’s when fear took over. Instead of leaning into honesty and letting her in, I pulled back. I told myself, “Maybe if I just stop, things will be easier.
Maybe I can push this part of me down and make it disappear.”
But of course, Aveline never really disappeared.
You are a Girl now you can't stop
I kept cross dressing in secret, sneaking those moments when I thought it was safe. And then the inevitable happened
My Partner found out.
She was angry.
And in that moment, I was crushed.
I thought her anger meant my worst fears were true this side of me was something ugly,
something that would push her away.
I blamed myself and felt even more ashamed, so I buried Aveline even deeper.
Months went by like that. I tried to carry on as if everything was fine, but inside I felt split in two.
I wanted so badly to share this softer, freer side of me with her, but the fear of rejection kept my lips sealed.
Then, just a few days ago, something unexpected happened. I had been drinking a little
just enough to lower my guard and we started texting.
We are both girls
For the first time in months, I was honest. I told her how scared I had been, how much shame I felt, and how badly I wanted her to accept this part of me.
Her reply shocked me. She wasn’t angry because I was cross dressing.
She was angry because I was hiding it from her.
She WANTED to share in it. She WANTED to be a part of this with me, not shut out of it.
And then she said something that made me smile she wants us to share clothes.
Let's see what you look like in a dress
The idea of trying on outfits together, swapping dresses, laughing over styles, and maybe even giving each other fashion tips that’s something I never imagined would be possible for me.
What I thought was my deepest secret could now become a way to bond with the person I love most.
Some small moments have already been magical. I haven’t worn a wig in front of her yet, but I have worn lip gloss and she loved it.
Kissing a cross dresser
The first time we kissed while I had it on, she told me how soft and sweet it felt, and that simple compliment made me feel seen and cherished.
Don't crossdress in front of the kids
At the same time, there’s a challenge I have to navigate carefully: we have a daughter who is autistic, and she would not understand this side of me.
I need to make sure Aveline stays private around her, at least for now, while still giving myself the freedom to express who I am in safe spaces.
It’s a balancing act, but one I’m learning to manage with love and patience.
Replacing Boxer shorts with girl shorts
This weekend, I’m taking some bigger steps. I have two drawers, and I’m going to clear one out so I can finally fill it with my female clothes.
For years, everything had to be hidden, shoved away, or tucked into secret corners. But now… I get to have space.
A drawer that’s openly mine. It feels symbolic, like Aveline is no longer a secret I keep, but a part of our life together.
Tomorrow, I’m going shopping for something I’ve dreamed of for a long time: my first set of girl underwear.
Just writing that feels surreal. I’m finally giving myself permission to choose something that makes me feel feminine, soft, and true to who I am.
My old boxer shorts?
They're going in the bin. It’s more than just fabric it’s a piece of the old fear I’ve been holding onto, and I’m ready to let it go.
After that, my next goal is already in sight: getting my ears pierced.
I want cute stud earrings
Earrings have always been one of those little symbols of femininity I admired from afar. Soon, instead of just imagining it,
I’ll get to feel the weight of studs or hoops and see that sparkle in the mirror.
Beyond that, I’m dreaming even bigger like buying matching female pyjamas , soft and cozy, or even something we can share together.
Girl pyjamas for a cross dresser
Every step underwear, earrings, Pyjamas, even little things like lip gloss is a celebration of freedom, self-love, and letting Aveline shine.
What I’ve Learned
Fear makes us build prisons for ourselves.
Secrets hurt the people we love more than the truth ever could.
When someone loves you, they want all of you not just the pieces you think are “safe.”
Sometimes the thing you’re most scared to share can become something that brings you closer.
Even something as simple as lip gloss, a drawer, a shopping trip, or a pair of earrings can be milestones of freedom.
It’s possible to be honest with yourself while also protecting those you love, even if it means being a little more careful.
What's next?
I don’t know exactly what the future holds for me and my partner as we step into this together, but I feel lighter now.
I don’t have to keep Aveline locked away anymore. And for the first time in a long time, I feel hopeful.
I want to go to pride with my partner and Sarah that would be amazing but we will see where this journey takes us
My Crossdressing Update
We have spoken in the last few days and she made a point that was important to her.
She doesn't want to lose the male me the female side of me is fun impulsive and unpredictable but she fell In love with the male me
This is fair enough I do understand that this is NOT all about me. I promised NOT to get carried away with myself and to respect how she is and her feelings
In return will respect how I feel. This is how a relationship works compromise.
If you are in this situation please remember it is not all about you and your crossdressing do not push things so far that you break something because
not all broken things can be fixed
If you want to see what I am planning on wearing to pride here is a link Pride 2026 Outfit
If you’re reading this and you’ve been hiding out of fear, please know: you might be surprised at the love and understanding waiting for you when you finally let someone in.
Until next time,
💖 Aveline
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Crossdressing & Transgender Support Resources in the UK
Beaumont Society
Founded in 1966, the Beaumont Society is the UK's longest-established transgender support group. It offers a confidential helpline, support groups, one-on-one counselling, and educational resources.
Contact:
📞 01582 412220
📧 enquiries@beaumontsociety.org.uk
Mermaids
is a charity supporting transgender and gender-diverse children, young people, and their families. They provide a helpline, online chat, and resources for parents and professionals.
Contact:
📞 0808 801 0400
MindOut
is a mental health service run by and for LGBTQ+ people. They offer support groups, online chat, and befriending services to improve the mental health and wellbeing of LGBTQ+ communities.
Contact:
📞 01273 234 839
📧 info@mindout.org.uk
🌐 mindout.org.uk
Samaritans
provides a non-judgmental, confidential helpline for anyone going through a tough time, regardless of their background. They are available 24/7 to listen and support.
Contact:
📞 116 123 (free, 24/7 in the UK)
🌐 samaritans.org
Pink Therapy
is an online directory of qualified therapists who identify as or are understanding of minority sexual and gender identities. They offer a range of therapeutic services tailored to the LGBTQ+ community.
Contact:
🌐 pinktherapy.com
LGBT Foundation
offers a range of services, including free talking therapies online and via telephone, providing access to LGBTQ+ affirmative therapy and counselling with specialist therapists.
Contact:
📧 info@lgbt.foundation
🌐 lgbt.foundation
CliniQ
is a community interest company offering holistic sexual health, mental health, and wellbeing services for all trans people, partners, and friends. They provide support in a safe and inclusive environment.
Contact:
📧 info@cliniq.org.uk
🌐 cliniq.org.uk
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